Jealousy
How to conquer Jealousy, a step by step guide. A friend recently talked to me about this.
I find that jealousy exist in all living souls, be it little or much. So this might help u along the way if u ever jealousy gets in the way of the progression of ur life. Hope i helps!
Seperate the facts and the stories!!!!! In "emergency" or intense situations, what we recommend to our coaching clients (and to you) is that you consciously breathe deeply and simply allow those feelings to be there without acting on them. This sounds counter-intuitive but it does really work! You might think that if you focused on the feelings that they will intensify, but if you are "breathing into" those feelings, the exact opposite happens. "Whether you believe that you can do something or not, you're right." WHAT IS JEALOUSY?Jealousy is a whole bundle of feelings that tend to get lumped together. Jealousy can manifest as depression, feeling powerless, loneliness,envy,anger,feeling left out, hurt, anxiety, betrayal. It is crucial to understand what jealousy is and what it is about. Jealousy is about fear--fear of the unknown and of change, fear of losing power or control in a relationship, fear of scarcity and of loss, and fear of abandonment. It is a reflection of our own insecurity about our worthiness, anxiety about being adequate as a lover, and doubts about our desirability.how to deal?Either he is the one for you or he isn't. There will always be someone more attractive but do they have substance? If he really wants you -- he won't make you jealous. When you communicate together openingly you should address this issue --why he wants to make you jealous and perhaps he can assure you there is nothing to fear. Jealousy is a self-defeating emotion that can drive away the love we crave. Realize you are the one over-reacting.jealousy for those who can not control it eats away at the core of the relationship in the one thing that holds it together -- trust.Realize he chose you for your uniqueness. Your every bit as good if not better than those other girls. Remember that trust is the foundation of any relationship, and you shouldn't let your insecurities destroy yours.Stop and think what triggers the jealousy exactly? Also keep in mind jealousy can be a pattern from when you were younger. Be gentle, easy on yourself and discuss the situations when they trigger calmly with your partner.. If your partner doesn't think they are important, discuss the situation with friends for a reality check, join a group and get their viewsSTEPSHave self-confidenceThinking PositiveExercise The Way you Dress -- i.e. you feel and look greatGive and Receive (treat others as you expect to be treated) even if you get nothing back. Give what you want. If you want more cooperation and respect, give respect and cooperate. If you want to succeed, help others succeed. If you want more joy, be more joyful. And be open to giving to yourself. Honor your own worthiness to receive or no one else will. When we circulate our positive energy, we create more and more to enjoy. Giving is good as long as you do not let others take advantage of you.Surround yourself with good people.Set goals and meet them.Managing your jealousy begins with the acknowledgement that you are jealous. Repression or denial may only make things worse. Stop debating whether the feeling is good or bad. Accept it as your emotional reality and go from there. Accept that your feelings of insecurity will not go away overnight. They are something you are going to have to work on. Look at them rather like you would look at an .... addiction to cigarettes - you have to work at stopping.Try to be your unique self. Don't compare yourself to others.We all need to boost our self-confidence in different ways and for different reasons. The trick is to find out where you need to improve and then go out and do just that. When you have faith in yourself, life makes more and more sense, and seems increasingly like something you can tackle. Most of all self-confidence takes time.
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Trust betrays you 1 too many times.
I find that jealousy exist in all living souls, be it little or much. So this might help u along the way if u ever jealousy gets in the way of the progression of ur life. Hope i helps!
Seperate the facts and the stories!!!!! In "emergency" or intense situations, what we recommend to our coaching clients (and to you) is that you consciously breathe deeply and simply allow those feelings to be there without acting on them. This sounds counter-intuitive but it does really work! You might think that if you focused on the feelings that they will intensify, but if you are "breathing into" those feelings, the exact opposite happens. "Whether you believe that you can do something or not, you're right." WHAT IS JEALOUSY?Jealousy is a whole bundle of feelings that tend to get lumped together. Jealousy can manifest as depression, feeling powerless, loneliness,envy,anger,feeling left out, hurt, anxiety, betrayal. It is crucial to understand what jealousy is and what it is about. Jealousy is about fear--fear of the unknown and of change, fear of losing power or control in a relationship, fear of scarcity and of loss, and fear of abandonment. It is a reflection of our own insecurity about our worthiness, anxiety about being adequate as a lover, and doubts about our desirability.how to deal?Either he is the one for you or he isn't. There will always be someone more attractive but do they have substance? If he really wants you -- he won't make you jealous. When you communicate together openingly you should address this issue --why he wants to make you jealous and perhaps he can assure you there is nothing to fear. Jealousy is a self-defeating emotion that can drive away the love we crave. Realize you are the one over-reacting.jealousy for those who can not control it eats away at the core of the relationship in the one thing that holds it together -- trust.Realize he chose you for your uniqueness. Your every bit as good if not better than those other girls. Remember that trust is the foundation of any relationship, and you shouldn't let your insecurities destroy yours.Stop and think what triggers the jealousy exactly? Also keep in mind jealousy can be a pattern from when you were younger. Be gentle, easy on yourself and discuss the situations when they trigger calmly with your partner.. If your partner doesn't think they are important, discuss the situation with friends for a reality check, join a group and get their viewsSTEPSHave self-confidenceThinking PositiveExercise The Way you Dress -- i.e. you feel and look greatGive and Receive (treat others as you expect to be treated) even if you get nothing back. Give what you want. If you want more cooperation and respect, give respect and cooperate. If you want to succeed, help others succeed. If you want more joy, be more joyful. And be open to giving to yourself. Honor your own worthiness to receive or no one else will. When we circulate our positive energy, we create more and more to enjoy. Giving is good as long as you do not let others take advantage of you.Surround yourself with good people.Set goals and meet them.Managing your jealousy begins with the acknowledgement that you are jealous. Repression or denial may only make things worse. Stop debating whether the feeling is good or bad. Accept it as your emotional reality and go from there. Accept that your feelings of insecurity will not go away overnight. They are something you are going to have to work on. Look at them rather like you would look at an .... addiction to cigarettes - you have to work at stopping.Try to be your unique self. Don't compare yourself to others.We all need to boost our self-confidence in different ways and for different reasons. The trick is to find out where you need to improve and then go out and do just that. When you have faith in yourself, life makes more and more sense, and seems increasingly like something you can tackle. Most of all self-confidence takes time.
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Trust betrays you 1 too many times.
posted by Mrkanjason at 3:54 AM
2 Comments:
Hey, I've got some advice for jealous people too.
Don't be jealous, be INSPIRED!
ass...
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